As is true of all other Americans, our hearts have been heavy at CRG since the shooting in Connecticut last Friday. Our psychologists, psychiatrists and nurses have heard the concerns that many parents have that their child may someday have similar difficulties. First, let us assure you that the behavior this young man demonstrated is rare. If your child, adolescent or young adult is receiving behavioral health treatment at CRG/Children’s Resource Group or elsewhere, you have taken the initial steps to seek help for your loved one. If you are concerned that your child has a fascination with violence or tends to act out violently, we encourage you to take the following steps:
- Ask those whom you trust for recommendations of specialists in your area and then seek consultation and evaluation regarding your child’s difficulties.
- Request a treatment plan to address the areas of concern that you have expressed.
- Ask for research-based information regarding the diagnosis or diagnoses and recommended treatments so that you can become knowledgeable regarding your child’s condition.
- Despite most parents’ hesitation to consider medication, recognize that the use of psychotropic medications as a part of treatment may be warranted.
- Ask the medication provider about the long-term side effects of the medication as well as the long-term prognosis if medication is not used.
- Make sure that those who are involved with your child are working in concert with one another and that you are a part of the team.
- As your child is able to participate in his or her own care, include him/her in discussions with the behavioral health providers at a level that they can understand.
- Seek treatment and support for yourself as needed. You are not alone!
Many parents have asked for resources for discussing the shooting with their children. Below are two links to excellent articles and advice: